To the little people who gave me the title: Mommy.
I’m trying to live up to the title you gave me.
I will spend everyday trying to be the best mom I can be. I love you two little humans beyond imagination. #happymothersday
It is incredibly intimidating to admit your insecurities or your weaknesses. Especially when you know that it’s gonna be weaponized.
Literally every woman in the Curry family was on the verge of tears before they started talking. @ayeshacurry voice was shaking the entire time. She admitted being on anxiety medicine, she is still newly post-partum. She even was brave enough to admit how much it hurt when y’all constantly drag her under the bus.
But The part y’all focused on was a sound bite in a larger conversation mostly centering on mental health and the pressure women can be under to be everything - especially when attached to “important” men - and the vulnerability that comes with that. Y’all have gone on to show just how easily you will remove things from their context just to start a meme or make a point.
As a mother with mental health issues, the bravery it takes to say “I’m not okay,” or to say “I feel insecure,” it’s taxing. And she did so in the public eye. I see exactly what she’s saying. My husband not a baller but he has a job that takes him a way for long periods of time. I know isolation. As a woman who got married and, because of certain circumstances, has had to move from being independent to depending on a man - even a good one - I know how hard that is. I know what it is to lose your identity in marriage, in motherhood. And that is compounded by mental health issues that make you feel crazy, or make you feel as though you don’t know yourself all that well anyway. And I know that every women who has felt like Ayesha fully understood what she meant.
I bet there’s a woman around you who is afraid to admit how she feels because she’s watching how you critique other women who are honest and vulnerable. Because maybe she feels like Ayesha does and by saying what you’ve said about her, you’ve given her your response already. Because I’ve been her. And I hope that you learn compassion and how to listen with your heart, if not now, at some point. For the sake of moms and women everywhere.
Manal, creator of @helloholydays and #purpleramadan, gave me a chance to check out her beautiful gift bags and cards for #Ramadan and Y’all!!!!
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They are so cute and festive! 🎉 I’m already planning gifts just to have a reason to put something in them! (But I also kinda wanna keep them and just look at them because I adore them!)👀👀
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Head on over to @helloholydays for more beautiful Ramadan and eid products as well as craft and decor ideas!
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From the Saleem Family to yours, Ramadan Mubarak! May Allah bless our fasts, and give us the benefit of ever moment of this blessed month. May he give our hearts ease, cleanse our souls, and purify our intentions. May we come ever closer to Allah (SWT).
I like to think that my greatest gift to my kids is making sure they had a great dad. I was very intentional in choosing a husband, but even more so in choosing my children’s father. I’ve always felt that, if I knew I wanted kids, I owed it to them to bring them into the world with a decent man. One who - should we decide not to continue at some point - I would want to co-parent with. Because stuff happens, you know?
I remember, pre-kids, sitting back and observing him and imagining what type of dad he’d be. I saw how kind he was to his pets and imagined how gentle he’d be with a baby. I saw how he volunteered his time with his siblings after school programs and could easily envision him as a dad, coaching whatever team activity our kids dedicated themselves to. I saw him writing down all the things I expressed interest in and doing research on them, and I imagined him looking up whatever obscure questions our kids would ask so he could give them the right answer.
He is the dad I imagined him to be and more. I watch him parent and I am in awe. My son couldn’t have a better man to model. My daughter will know love and honor unmatched.
I don’t know what the future holds and what challenges await us on this parenting journey, but I’m glad that I’m on it with him.
Dua’a is manifestation by a different name. When you open your hands and you call out to your lord, when you say “My Lord, witness me. My Lord, I am asking you to grant me this. Oh Allah, these are the desires of my heart, these are my wants, these are my needs,” you are at the beginning of manifestation. .
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Allah already says: “Verily, God knows the hidden reality of the heavens and the earth: [and,] behold, He has full knowledge of what is in the hearts [of men].”- 35:38
He knows what you want. He knows what you desire. But he wants you to ask. “When my servants ask you concerning me, (tell them) I am indeed close (to them). I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calls on me.” (Quran, 2:186) He wants you to ask him, out loud, for what you need. You know, “Put it into the Universe.” .
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But then you’ve got one more step. You’ve got to believe that he’s going to answer. Know that your dua’a is going to be answered with what you prayed for or better. Believe that Allah will send you what is for you. Make your dua’a focused and clear.
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Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Call upon Allah with certainty that he will answer you. Know that Allah will not answer the supplication of a heart that is negligent and distracted.” .
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So know that Allah gives us all of the tools of manifestation. Know that he wants to give you what you ask him for, if only you ask. And know that he is capable of giving you exactly what you asked for. Because he is as his slave thinks of him - so believe he will and he will.
